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5:40 PM

Maximizing YOUR Potential

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Mommies have it hard. We give, give, give until we can't give anymore. It's true, the black woman's slogan is, "F*ck it, I'll do it myself." Many of us spend our entire day giving at work, school and any other obligation then come home to take care of our children and other family members. Women: the true nurturer. Up until last year, I asked myself "What am I doing to nurture myself?" Sure, I keep busy with school, work and the girls but how was I unlocking my true potential and taking care of me? So many days where I am DEAD tired I keep going because I have the automatic response of "so what you're tired, what mother isn't?"  I have to remind myself I am not a lot of mothers. 

Ladies, it's  okay to be tired and sometimes *Whispers quickly* Not have your Sh*t together. By that I mean, sometimes dinner is stuff we scavenge out the cabinet and refrigerator but it manages to hit all the food groups. What is NOT okay is when you are tired because you are giving your all to everyone and not giving anything to YOU. I realized how much not taking care of me even the slightest bit influences everything else in my life (work, school, physical/mental health) for the WORST. Being strong is accepting and knowing you have limits and need breaks. Pace yourself and brace yourself ladies! So you can be all you can be for yourself and for the little person (people if you're blessed with a few like myself) in your life. Your assignment for the week, should you accept #MillyMochas is to make a list of five things to accomplish this month. One goal pertaining to School/Work, Physical, Mental, Motherhood (Family if you're not yet a mommy) and a new experience. I'll start it off! 

1. School/Work

My goal for school/work is to give 110% as soon as I walk in the door all the way until I leave. As far as school, I'm working on my capstone which is 40-50 pages long so if I'm not posting here, ill be typing that. By giving 110% that means showing up on time (Early), taking initiative, furthering my knowledge to help my students and constantly out doing myself..yep staying in my own lane and worrying about what I got going on. 

2. Physical

Ya'll, I Need to get SNATCHED. By snatched I mean I need to become consistent in a healthier lifestyle. My goal for the month is workout three times a week MINIMUM and clean up my eating. Easier said than done but it takes 21 days to make a new habit and there's still 25 days left in BLACK HISTORY MONTH. So, Merritt here I come! 

3. Mental

Ladies, say it with me: "How you treat yourself on the inside, shows on the outside. How you feel about yourself on the inside, will impact your aura on the outside." Saying that, my goal is to get closer to myself and find my mental blocks and remove them. I plan on getting back to mediation and yoga as I feel better connected with myself when I do both. It's important to have all of your chakras unblocked aligned. When one is blocked it messes up the flow of all of your chakras. #MillyMocha you deserve to feel good about yourself. Inside and out. I actually plan on this month making it out to Khepera Wellness Black Girl Magic Yoga class. If anyone knows me they know I love, yoga, DC and celebrating black womanhood so it's OD Lit. 

4. Motherhood
It's Black History Month Power to the People, Power to the Struggle. #FreeAssata Okay sorry ya'll, my inner Black Panther took over. It's also the month for Love. What better goal this month as a mother than to emphasize self-love and pride/love in being black to my beautiful 8 year old. Once a week I plan on introducing her to one notable black woman. I will have her stand in front of the mirror and declare her undying and unconditional love for herself and all that she has to offer this world and herself. In order for our children to know where to go they have to know where they came from and I need them to know they came from greatness. So tomorrow, I'll start with Barbara Easley (No, I didn't pick her because her name is Barbara, I'm totally lying but who cares?) 

5. A New Experience

I'm not really sure about this one yet. I would like to take a pottery or cooking class though so I'm sure it'll be one of those two things. I'll keep you #MillyMochas posted in whatever I do. 

THE RULE IS, if it's not in your five it is not a priority. Focus on pleasing YOU and the rest will follow! Alright ladies, go forth and be #Mocha! Drop your goals below! 

Happy Friday! 

5:39 PM

Let Me Explain

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In 2009, at the age of 16 I became the mother to a beautiful baby girl. I was blessed with an amazing support system, at home and in school. The adults in my life saw so much potential in me, even at times when I didn't see it in myself. My mother, who never made it past middle school thought that I would no longer be able to attend school and her dream of me being the first to attend college was shattered. My guidance counselor, my sister and many of my teachers reassured her differently. In the fall 2010, with a one-year old and a new set of pens I attended my first semester of college! I completed my B.A. in English in Four years and I am currently in my final semester of graduate school getting my M.S. in Negotiations and Conflict Management (Whoot! Whoot!) and I did it all at the age of 24 with two children; seven and 18 mos.
Sometime last year I came up with the idea of MillenialMochaMoms, this blog that would provide a networking opportunity for the moms of color that are apart of the millennial group. Yes, I have plenty of friends, I have over 300k sisters (Eee-Yip My Sorors!) but I still wanted to know someone that looked like me, was going through the things I was all the while being a mother and trying to enter into Big Girl World as I like to call it.
The thing about us millennials is that we are multi-faceted- We are working multiple jobs with multiple degrees, tending to our children and spouses all the while making time for both bottomless mimosas on the weekends #Bitchin'NBrunchin' as I like to call it and #PlayGroundParties because we all know, there's no turn up like when the swing gets high! Throw a lil' Black Girl Magic on it and it's even more lit! I have a passion in advocating for the quality of life for black women and women of color! I truly stand by Me First. Me First because I cannot be all that I can be as a daughter, mother, sister, friend, soror, educator, etc. If I do not take care of ME mentally, physically, spiritually and so forth. My goal is to help all women to see the bigger picture and achieve enlightenment and empowerment as we navigate our daily lives. As I add life to this blog I want you all to reach out and leave comments, talk/encourage one another! If you come across any topics you want me to discuss, let me know!
Lets get to the Nitty Gritty!

Barb, What's a 'MillennialMochaMom'?

According to Webster's dictionary. Nah, there's no official definition just mine. A Millennial Mocha Mom is a young mother of color that juggles multiple roles from motherhood to student hood. A #MillyMocha for short is mom of color that exudes brilliance, excellence, success and has tenacity like none other! A #MillyMocha is a mother that is setting the pace and raising the standards of what it means to be a mother in our current society.  *Whispers* She also probably danced and sang along to Britney Spears, 'Hit Me Baby One More Time'.... Not me though.

Barb, I'm not a mom can I still read?

Yeah! The more the merrier! I'll actually feature some bomb ass women of color that are key players in my life! *Spoiler Alert* They are doing the damn thang!

Barb, I'm a mom but I'm not a 'MochaMom'

*In my Claire Huxtable Voice* Mhmmm! Well, come on in chile... Ask your friendly neighborhood 'Mochamom' if you can borrow her decoder pen to read my posts. No! Just kidding, all are welcome! Of course you can read my posts! You may even find a lot more similarities than differences and some new friends along the way!

Barb, What's the age range for 'Millennial'?

Well The Atlantic says that range for the Millennial generation is 1982-2004 (anyone after that is lost in oblivion, sorry, ya'll.) so all are welcome and because we vary in age, I will be featuring a new mommy each month so that we can hear from Ery'body!

Barb, You look like a ball of fun! Are we doing playdates and brunches?

Hold up! Ya'll know I love a good brunch! Playdates are cool too...Yes, my goal is this year hosts meet ups for the mommies and playdates for the kiddies! So if you're in the Baltimore/DMV (Baltimore is not the DMV *Emoji eye roll) I'm down for mimosas and mommy & me!

Enjoy! Welcome to Millennial Mocha Moms! #IllBeIntouch