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5:26 PM

Beauty Must Haves for Mommies!

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Hey #MillyMochas! How is March going for you? Getting anything done? I hope so! Well, like most mommies I have bags, stretch marks and just a lot of things that comes with the territory. While I always preach about taking care of yourself I never quite gave you guys any of my favorite beauty products that helps me get by! I'll be 25 in June *sighs* and I decided last year that it will be worth  while to create a consistent skin care routine because the better you treat your skin, the better it will treat you! I have oily skin, so from the beginning of my skin care routine, I try to use products that will minimize pores and create a barrier from my skin becoming super oily through out the day.
 Here are my top skin care items:

1. Face wash

Detoxifying Black Cleanser by Boscia, $10.00- Sephora.
 Lately, there have been a lot of charcoal facial washes that help with keeping oil at bay and minimizing pores. This face wash by Boscia does the trick! Bonus points because it heats up when you rub it on your face.  It does the job without leaving dry patches. A little goes a long way and I wash my face with this morning and evening.

                      Garnier SkinActive Clean+ Shine Control Cleansing Gel 
by Garner, $5.69- Amazon, Target and Ulta.
This is definitely my ultimate favorite! One bottle lasted me a long time. It took me a long time to find it after I ran out of it and thats how I stumbled on my Boscia. I actually use both and I actually travel with the Garnia, just because the weather and climate in different areas seem to make my skin more oily and this always does the trick in mattifying and keeping away shine.

2. Toner

A lot of people don't use toner, mainly because they don't know the purpose of it. Toner is good for an extra cleanse after washing your face or a quick freshen up through the day. It's especially good for oily and acne prone skin. 

Tea Tree Water Toner by Lush USA, $10.95-Lush
Ya'll. This toner is EVERYTHING. 
I've made it a habit to not wear as much makeup and since I have made that decision this toner holds. me. down.  It's made with tea tree, juniper berry and grapefruit water. Its a good part of the morning as  the cold toner on my face is a good wakeup. In order to preserve the ingredients its recommended to be refrigerated. 

3. Eye Cream

#MillyMochas LISTEN, this is important! Especially if you have raccoon eyes (dark circles) and puffiness (#NoSleepCauseImWritingMyCapstonePaper Woot! Woot!). Eye creams are good for reducing dark circles and puffiness. I use two, one for morning and one for at night. 

Garnier SkinActive Clearly Brighter Anti-Puff Eye Roller by Garnier, $8.89- Target

I use this eye roller in the morning and it does give you instant results! I love how cold it is and it helps with waking up. I did notice that after two weeks my dark circles were lighter and that much of the puffiness I experience when I first wake up decreased a ton. Even if I am just doing a quick run and forego my facial cleanses I still put this under my eyes to at least give the appearance of having sleep while it works on my dark circles and eye puffiness.

I use this baby at night after I wash and apply my toner and this eye cream definitely is one for the books! "Infused with Lavender Essential Oil, Hyaluronic & Hydroxy Acids, it renews, firms and even reduces the appearance of wrinkles. Now go ahead and recharge skin while you sleep" This cream is definitely underrated and I can't sleep at night without applying it! 

4. Moisturizer

Okay, moisturizer is very tricky! Moisturizer for my skin specifically have to have a certain balance. Too greasy and by the end of the day you'll end up looking you went to a spa that does KFC facials. Find a moisturizer without enough essential oils and you'll just be oily with dry patches. #YUCK

Even if you don't have acne prone skin, I highly recommend this if you have oily skin! The little bottle lasts and this is another 'little goes along way' item that I stick by! One pump usually does the trick. 

Weekly face Masks:

Just know how much I love you all because I'm sharing the secret to keeping my face so A1 outside of these products! So twice a week, I make a face mask. 

Here is my secret tip, Indian Healing Clay A.K.A. Bentonite Clay I mix this with unfiltered Apple Cider Vinegar and apply it for twenty minutes, twice weekly! The benefits of the mask are: Draws out toxins, treats acne, prevents blackheads and evens out skin tone which is a plus if you have an uneven skin tone like someone like me. Some people mix it with water and some actually squeeze out lemon juice and mix it with that. I highly recommend the ACV or lemon juice. You can also place it in your hair as a hair mask! 

WARNING: if you have any piercings on your face, do NOT place the mask on it. It WILL close the hole as the Aztecs used this to treat open wounds and heal scars! I found that out the hard way this past Saturday. 

So, there you have it ladies! My secret to making it look like I have it all together even though underneath I'm tired As F*ck! 

What are your favorite beauty products? 

Comment below! 


4:00 AM

Mommy March Madness

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Hey Mommies! 

Well..how did February go? Did you get any of your goals done? I know I did! I got a good three out of my five goals done! Not bad right?! 
This month  is a big month. I always say that March is a huge transition month. March is the month where the remnants of last year truly die off and we begin to enter into new things. Let that sink in #MillyMochas. New Things. As mommies (and sister mommies) we all get into routine. Up at 6 A.M. Out the house by 7:45 to pick up your Starbucks mobile order, drop the kids off by 8:30 and at work by 8:55. Complete work, leave work, run some errands, pick the kids up, come home, cook dinner, prepare for next day. Rinse Wash Repeat. I don't know about you mommies but, its more exhausting being in a routine than out of one. This month is especially crazy for me, I'm writing my capstone *watches two strands of hair turn gray and three fall out*, completing my internship, preparing for Cuba AND trying to figure out what the hell I'm going to do in 8 weeks when I am finished with school. 

Thank God for my Apple Watch that reminds me every hour to BREATHE because who knows what section of Shepard Pratt I would be in at this point. My patience is thinner than Agent Orange wig ya'll and I feel that this month especially is important to keep up on EVERYTHING in your life that has a timeline or needs evaluation. 
In order to survive March, the month of transition we need to make sure we practice self-care. Take care of your mental so you can complete your studies. Nobody deserves to be subjected to your 40 page paper filled with typos and HELP ME THE BABY KEEPS DELETING MY WORK fragmented sentences. One thing I have learned to do is take either of my MacBooks with me wherever I go. I mostly take my air because it is a lot lighter than my pro. When I have time at work I prop my bad boy open and type, research or proofread what I have. Prior to doing this I had to think about how much time I was wasting just mindlessly staring at my phone. Idle time should be productive time. I have been working hard to get myself out of sitting in the car when I get off of work. I simply complete one task and move on to the next.

Speaking of time, is there someone in your life right now that you just can't seem to get through to that your time is just as important as their time? I have a solution for you MochaMom, Look Right. What did she say? Stop. That's a good answer.  #MillyMochas Don't you let a single person, not even you waste your time this month! #MochaMoms are busy as hell. The time I spend waiting for someone to confirm something with me I could be doing a clients face, studying, rearranging my room, playing with the girls, talking to God, cleaning the closets, the possibilities are endless! It's hard being a mother, friend, spouse, soror, etc. and the least people in your life can do is return the same amount of effort that you giving them. 

Nope, don't do it. I know that's one of your favorite homegirls but every time ya'll get done hanging out you have to take a nap, do a three-day detox, pray to God for healing of your heart and walk around with a black obsidian yoni egg in your snatch to rid yourself of the negative energy your friend gave to you. You don't have time to be hanging with people just to pick up their heavy ass baggage. You are a person, not FedEx. Picking up packages, bad ones at that is not in your job description.

 Patience. I know this is easier said than done. Just know that everything will come to full circle. A day at a time is how you make it through life. I'm stressed now but I know that tomorrow I will get up, go workout, come home and clean/study/etc. but I will focus on the present and not what I have to do next until I get to the next. Your challenge this month #MochaMom should you accept is to:


Everything will be okay mama. Just change the diaper, clean the mess up and move on. 

2.  Protect your Time

Sis, what did we just talk about? Yeah, I know you've been wanting to hang with him for a minute. You have sh*t to do though. He knows you have other obligations and just like his life doesn't come to a screeching halt for you, yours does not stop for him. Pull out your planner and give him some dates where you MAY be able to fit him in.  Tell your whiny ass homegirl you'll call her back when you've finished everything you need to get done. If she asks why, let her know you want to make sure you have time to emotionally regroup after listening to her whine for the millionth time. 

3. Patience

Last but not least, have some patience. The job will call you, your kids will get it right, the paper will be completed and the universe will align for you. Just take it one day at a time. Lean on your support when you need to be keep going. Do what you can then let the universe and God do the rest. I promise, March will be just fine. 

Happy Saturday!